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To Be Resilient

By Damita JQ

     Resiliency is not just something I have studied while gaining my graduate degrees and counseling certification, but something that I have lived and witnessed repeatedly.  I see resiliency as a part of the human experience.  
     I was born into a faithful, yet troubled family.  My mother was divorced with children, and had no support system.   
     My childhood neighborhood had positive/faith-based people at the churches and schools.   But, there were negative and evil aspects there such as those who preyed on others, the drug addicts and alcoholics, the pedophiles, the neglectful parents, and those adults who turned a blind eye to the ills around them. 
     Despite some of my challenges, I was an optimist and believed that any situation had the potential to change for the better. 
     I figured out that I was naturally resilient since I survived and moved on with my life.  As a teenager, I went to a rural, New England boarding school on a scholarship, and endured a few years living in a foreign world.  
     Later, I faced problems with: trying to be a successful college student, paying my bills, handling friendships and romantic relationships, dealing with conflicts, and attempting to figure out my place in the world.  I did all of these things alone because there was no guide or support system for me then.
     Being optimistic helped, but was not the only solution to dealing with life's problems.  I had to learn to resilient.  My need to find coping mechanisms did not stop because I moved from the city to the country, went to college, or entered the world of work.  Every new aspect of my life involved coping in one way or another.  I had to learn to deal with the fears and anxieties that every human faces.  
     In the upcoming posts, I will examine different Coping Skills and Strategies, as well as Resilience Methods.  I will also provide URL Links to resources with helpful insight.   
     I believe in the power of Resilience.  I believe that the path to it must be learned and practiced consistently.


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