Prepare To Be Resilient

By Damita JQ      Resiliency is not just something I have studied while gaining my graduate degrees and counseling certification, but something that I have lived and witnessed repeatedly.  I see resiliency as a part of the human experience.        I was born into a faithful, yet troubled family.  My mother was divorced with children, and had no support system.         My childhood neighborhood had positive/faith-based people at the churches and schools.   But, there were negative and evil aspects there such as those who preyed on others, the drug addicts and alcoholics, the pedophiles, the neglectful parents, and those adults who turned a blind eye to the ills around them.       Despite some of my challenges, I was an optimist and believed that any situation had the potential to change for the better.       ...

By Damita JQ   Everyone has had to make a decision which is a choice on whether to go left, right, or do nothing at all.       Some decisions are easy to make such as those involving what to wear on a regular day, what to fix for dinner, or what activities (if any) to do on a typical weekend.       Other decisions may be more difficult to make such as: what to do when money is tight and another big expense arises, how to deal with a difficult person in your personal or professional life, changing careers, moving forward on a business, or what to do when a decision involves a family member.       I like to weigh the pros and cons of any situation by flushing it out in my head and on paper.  I have also found it useful to run some choices by a trusted person who will not judge me.       I'd advise taking a few days before making a big...