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Making Good Decisions

By Damita JQ  


Everyone has had to make a decision which is a choice on whether to go left, right, or do nothing at all. 
     Some decisions are easy to make such as those involving what to wear on a regular day, what to fix for dinner, or what activities (if any) to do on a typical weekend. 
     Other decisions may be more difficult to make such as: what to do when money is tight and another big expense arises, how to deal with a difficult person in your personal or professional life, changing careers, moving forward on a business, or what to do when a decision involves a family member. 
     I like to weigh the pros and cons of any situation by flushing it out in my head and on paper.  I have also found it useful to run some choices by a trusted person who will not judge me. 
     I'd advise taking a few days before making a big decision because the passage of time could open up more realizations on choices.   Important, life-changing decisions should definitely be made with some thought. 
     Ask yourself the questions below to ascertain whether a decision fits positively or negatively in your life.


1. Will your decision help or harm you?
2. Will your decision hurt someone?
3. Is your decision logical and reasonable?
4. Will your decision allow you to feel good about yourself?
5. Would you be fine with your family and friends knowing about your decision?
6.  What would the person that you admire think of your decision?


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